{"id":9565,"date":"2022-07-13T17:10:05","date_gmt":"2022-07-13T16:10:05","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/beta.devon.gov.uk\/supportforschools\/?page_id=9565"},"modified":"2026-02-24T15:42:03","modified_gmt":"2026-02-24T15:42:03","slug":"children-on-parent-violence","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"https:\/\/www.devon.gov.uk\/support-schools-settings\/send\/areas-of-need\/social-emotional-and-mental-health\/semh-one-minute-guides\/children-on-parent-violence\/","title":{"rendered":"One minute guide: Children on parent violence"},"content":{"rendered":"\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-columns is-layout-flex wp-container-core-columns-is-layout-9d6595d7 wp-block-columns-is-layout-flex\">\n<div class=\"wp-block-column doc-aside is-layout-flow wp-block-column-is-layout-flow\" style=\"flex-basis:25%\">\n<aside class=\"wp-block-group is-layout-constrained wp-block-group-is-layout-constrained\">\n<div class=\"wp-block-rank-math-toc-block\" id=\"rank-math-toc\"><h2>Contents<\/h2><nav><ul><li class=\"\"><a href=\"#what-is-cpv-1\">What is CPV ?<\/a><\/li><li class=\"\"><a href=\"#information\">Information<\/a><\/li><li class=\"\"><a href=\"#short-term-advice-for-schools-1\">Short-term advice for schools<\/a><\/li><li class=\"\"><a href=\"#longer-term-advice-for-schools-2\">Longer-term advice for schools<\/a><\/li><li class=\"\"><a href=\"#further-help-support-and-useful-links-3\">Further help, support and useful links<\/a><\/li><\/ul><\/nav><\/div>\n\n\n<div class=\"document-download-acf-block clearfix \" id=\"block_acf-block-699dc6c99ac78\">\r\n\r\n\t\t<div class=\" dcc-documents-downloads hide-for-print\"><div class=\"dcc-documents-widget dcc-documents-widget-block\"><div class=\"dcc-documents-widget-box2\"><div class=\"content-container\"><div class=\"content-column download-copy\"><h2 class=\"dcc-documents-title\">Document resources<\/strong><\/h2><p class=\"dcc-documents-intro\">These files may not be suitable for users of assistive technology.<\/p><\/div><div class=\"content-column download-button\"><ul class=\"dcc-documents-widget-dropdown dcc-documents-widget-menu\"><li class=\"dcc-documents-widget-is-dropdown\"><button class=\"button secondary dcc-documents-widget-noarrow dcc-documents-widget-button dcc-documents-widget-download-button\" >Download<\/button><ul id=\"\" class=\"dcc-documents-widget-vertical dcc-documents-widget-menu dcc-documents-widget-is-submenu\" data-disable-hover=\"true\" data-click-open=\"true\"><li><a href=\"https:\/\/devoncc.sharepoint.com\/:b:\/s\/PublicDocs\/Education\/EbR-XfSSDWhJuDe9CKw2X_IBL1RHRi3XIoxf5MmbtoFm4A?e=kTkhKM\" rel=\"noopener\"><span class=\"dcc-documents-widget-text\"><span>Children on parent violence (Document)<\/span><\/span><\/a><\/li><\/ul><\/li><\/ul><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/aside>\n\n\n\t<div class=\"dcc-documents-cpt-fixed dccdocs-sticky dccdocs-hidden\">\r\n    <div class=\"grid-container\">\r\n        <div class=\"grid-x grid-margin-x\">\r\n            <div class=\"cell medium-12\">\r\n                <a class=\"back-to-top hide-for-print\" href=\"#content\"><svg class=\"app-c-back-to-top__icon\" xmlns=\"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\" width=\"13\" height=\"17\" viewBox=\"0 0 13 17\"><path fill=\"currentColor\" d=\"M6.5 0L0 6.5 1.4 8l4-4v12.7h2V4l4.3 4L13 6.4z\"><\/path><\/svg> Contents<\/a>\r\n            <\/div>\r\n        <\/div>\r\n    <\/div>\r\n\t<\/div>\r\n<\/div>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-column doc-content is-layout-flow wp-block-column-is-layout-flow\" style=\"flex-basis:75%\">\n<article class=\"wp-block-group is-layout-flow wp-block-group-is-layout-flow\">\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"what-is-cpv-1\">What is CPV ?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Violence and aggression from children towards their parents is one of the biggest taboos in family life. It is one of the most hidden and misunderstood of the different forms of family violence. CPV is a pattern of physical, psychological and emotional behaviour seen in children and adolescents who cannot regulate their feelings in other ways, and\/or have a great need to gain control over their parent(s) or carers.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"information\">Information<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>There are low levels of reporting of CPV. Parents may want to avoid criminalising their child. Asking for help can feel very shaming and can prevent parents seeking the help they need.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>CPV is recognised as a risk factor in adoptive and other permanent placements.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Aggression is among the most common challenges reported by parents of children and adolescents with autism.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>The most common factor by far is previous domestic abuse between adults in the child\u2019s life.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Parents with mental health\/drug related issues represent 42% of reported cases.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>35% of reported cases have an EHCP.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Schools are the most common referrers to support services and the place parents seek help in the first instance.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"short-term-advice-for-schools-1\">Short-term advice for schools<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>It is important for practitioners to believe victims and take their concerns seriously and validate the impact on them. Initial safety concerns or basic safety planning should always be addressed. Schools should approach C\/APV as they would any other safeguarding issue, in line with the statutory guidance in Keeping Children Safe in Education 2019.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"longer-term-advice-for-schools-2\">Longer-term advice for schools<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Violent or aggressive behaviour in children is often motivated by fear and anxiety. School can be a protective factor for children and so schools should ensure that they are particularly aware that the child\u2019s safety needs are a vital part of their response to CPV.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>Use relational approaches e.g. Attachment Based Mentoring (ABM)<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Make use of the Overcoming Anxiety programme<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Use activities from the FREE2BEME packs to structure thinking and discussions around safe and healthy relationships<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Employ Restorative Approaches<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Look into the Non-Violent Resistance (NVR) approach<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>J W-U 2020<br><figure><img decoding=\"async\" width=\"419\" height=\"419\" class=\" wp-image-11191 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/www.devon.gov.uk\/support-schools-settings\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/166\/2022\/07\/CPV-300x300.jpg\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.devon.gov.uk\/support-schools-settings\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/166\/2022\/07\/CPV-300x300.jpg 300w, https:\/\/www.devon.gov.uk\/support-schools-settings\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/166\/2022\/07\/CPV-400x400.jpg 400w, https:\/\/www.devon.gov.uk\/support-schools-settings\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/166\/2022\/07\/CPV-150x150.jpg 150w, https:\/\/www.devon.gov.uk\/support-schools-settings\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/166\/2022\/07\/CPV-270x270.jpg 270w, https:\/\/www.devon.gov.uk\/support-schools-settings\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/166\/2022\/07\/CPV.jpg 406w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 419px) 100vw, 419px\" \/><\/figure><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"further-help-support-and-useful-links-3\">Further help, support and useful links<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>National Autistic Society: <a href=\"https:\/\/www.autism.org.uk\/advice-and-guidance\/topics\/behaviour\" rel=\"noopener\">Challenging Behaviour<\/a><br>Post-Adoption Centre: <a href=\"https:\/\/www.pac-uk.org\/our-services\/firstfamily\/advice-line\/\" rel=\"noopener\">PAC Advice Line<\/a><br>Creswell &amp; Willetts: <a href=\"https:\/\/www.amazon.co.uk\/dp\/B0097AY62M\/ref=dp-kindle-redirect?_encoding=UTF8&amp;btkr=1\" rel=\"noopener\">Overcoming Your Child\u2019s Fears and Worries<\/a><br>Haim Omer: <a href=\"https:\/\/www.amazon.co.uk\/dp\/B0097AY62M\/ref=dp-kindle-redirect?_encoding=UTF8&amp;btkr=1\" rel=\"noopener\">Nonviolent Resistance, a new approach to violent and self-destructive children<\/a><br>FREE2BME packs: <a href=\"https:\/\/www.amazon.co.uk\/Non-Violent-Resistance-Approach-Self-destructive-Children\/dp\/0521536235\" rel=\"noopener\">already in school or available from the SEMH Team<\/a><br>ITV News: <a href=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=9aqK2gC-lEw\" rel=\"noopener\">Children Who Abuse Their Parent<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/devoncc.sharepoint.com\/:b:\/s\/PublicDocs\/Education\/EbR-XfSSDWhJuDe9CKw2X_IBL1RHRi3XIoxf5MmbtoFm4A?e=kTkhKM\" rel=\"noopener\">Download a printable version of this guide<\/a>.<\/p>\n<\/article>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-group is-layout-constrained wp-block-group-is-layout-constrained\"><div class=\"document-meta-acf-block clearfix \" id=\"block_acf-block-699dc6c99aca1\"><div class=\" dcc-documents-meta\"><div class=\"dcc-documents-widget dcc-documents-widget-block\"><div class=\"dcc-documents-widget-box2\"><p class=\"dcc-documents-published\"><span>Published<\/span> <time datetime=\"2022-07-13T17:10:05+00:00\">13\/07\/2022 5:10pm<\/time><\/p><p class=\"dcc-documents-updated\"><span>Last Updated<\/span> <time datetime=\"2026-02-24T15:42:03+00:00\">24\/02\/2026 3:42pm<\/time><\/p><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>What is CPV ? 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